I think I have had the worst of luck with guys (not men, but BOYS apparently).
THE LATEST:
So I met this guy and he strikes up a nice convo. Then, the famous line... "why don't you call me so we can get to know each other better". Get out the DIVA bat and start swinging. So I did, but I texted him maybe a month or so later and that starts the fact that he has my number to call me back, but only after I took a slight bump from a previous, I will get to that one later. So he calls me back, not on the number I just texted, another number.
THE THOUGHT IN A FABULOUS DIVA'S MIND:
Maybe he's at home and doesn't want to use his cell in the house. Some companies aren't so great with keeping a signal in the house, and some phones are just the problem, but don't let him in just yet, you still have a little investigating to do.
So we talked forrrrr approximatley 10 or 20 minutes....
I tell him I'm probably going to the movies alone friday, what movie he asks... HALLOWEEN! "Can I go with you?" NO! I say, but not in a mean way, just to let him know that I don't need an escort, I am my own escort. I make the heads turn and I make the perfect entrance alone. But in my mind I say, try calling another day and see what happens, Friday is a while away and you don't currently have a date. Which I had been avoiding for quite some time. So tonight I called, actually called this time and no answer. Calls me back on ANOTHER phone number, not the cell, not the one from the previous night, a TOTALLY DIFFERENT NUMBER!!!!
SOUND THE DIVA ALARM AND RAISE ALL WEAPONS! When questioned abou this obvious attempt to hide something, his response is, "What's wrong with having 3 CELL phones?" I have 3 phones but I only use one, and when I'm giving someone fortunate enough to have my number, I give them the one I use. This triggers the questioning and investigation. "Are you in the navy?" should be the question on every woman's list, not just for a few DIVAS but all women in general should ask. Why? Because navy guys try to be slick, some are married and are just stationed where they are at and their wives stay behind in their hometowns. Some could leave at any given moment, even when you two are a great couple, 6 month cruises are torture, take it from a girl who has seen a few good navy men go. That's pretty much all I had dated for a while I broke some hearts and some broke mine.
THE ANSWER:
"I served my time and got out". How long I ask. "5 years". I ask "what do you do now?" "Can I call you back tomorrow?" I say "NO, you just seem too suspicious for my tastes". He hangs up. Believe me, he WON'T be calling back because he knows that I know well enough that he is no good. I mean from the beginning he was no good since I warned him that I was trouble on two feet and he was "ok" with that.
So with that, I get to see Halloween and watch it to it's entirety with no interruptions. I'm ok with that, I hate going to the movies with a guy, on a date, you are always interrupted or distracted from watching it. I love myself too much to let my datelessness take over my intelligence. I can get a date, I'm just really not looking for one.
The "previous" I mentioned is now a good friend of mine but NOT dating material. Really not much to say, he has a lot of secrets that I've figured out but he's never owned up to them or denied them. We are just really good matches wanting different things. We're mentally intuned to a certain extent, though he's a little "blond", not physical blond, he's a black guy, the first I ever wanted to be with, he's a good friend. Not the type you probably think, but a friend I can talk to when I feel lonley or bored. Some navy guys are good, but bad at the same time.
Just watch out whatever you do, and keep the light in your brain on at all times, even when it's going good.
